A bit of everyday glamour

I am sure you have seen those ladies who always look put together. They are ready for anything at anytime.

I see them when I am out running errands. Older women in particular who never leave the house without a face full of make up or at least their, ‘lips on’, meaning they are wearing lipstick always.

I on the other hand have been known to shovel snow off of the driveway in my pj’s and house slippers. I’m not going anywhere so why bother? What does it matter? Why put in the effort?

If you are a Downton Abby fan, you know that these ‘rich people’ dressed for everything. Just as there is an appropriate piece of cutlery for every dish, there is an equally appropriate outfit for every occasion.

Going riding, there’s an outfit for that. Fishing? Hunting? Going for a picnic? You know there is something cute to wear for all of that, for every activity. But what about the stay-at-home woman?

I follow The Darling Academy blog run by Alena Pettigrew, the British housewife making waves with her positivity and enjoyment, yes actual enjoyment at being a housewife. Not a working mom, a housewife. She stays home and takes care of everything else while her husband brings home the bacon.

How to be a perfect '50s housewife: In the kitchen - Click Americana
Image NOT from Alena’s post. Image from, Click Americana

The other day, she wrote about women wearing dresses. It has inspired me to wear dresses more. After all, housewives from the past did everything, if not more due to a lack of modern conveniences, that we do today but they did it in a dress and with their hair and make up done to some extent everyday.

Putting oneself together for the day is an effort. It is an effort I don’t usually do unless I am visiting a client. The other day I was getting ready to go out and I was amazed at the effort required just to look as if I had not fallen out of bed and crawled to my car!

If Your Illness Means You Basically Live in Pajamas, These 13 Memes Are for  You
work from home meme - Exellys Stories

To that end, making the effort daily to do hair and make up and dress like a woman everyday, or as many days in a row as possible, I went shopping online yesterday and purchased 2 skirts, 2 dresses, an assortment of small scarves for hair or neck, a couple of purses and 2 tops. I shop cheap y’all. I can’t afford to pay top dollar for anything so I went to Shein and picked up all of that for the price some people would pay for one shirt on sale at Nordstroms or wherever they sell expensive shirts. There will be a fashion show of the items I bought.

How about you? Are you interested in getting back to your beautiful self… whatever that looks like? Are you interested in wearing skirts/dresses more, or exclusively? I almost have myself convinced but that really depends on if we can get the swamp cooler working this summer or not. I know, I’m wimpy, but comfort matters. For now, I think I will get going on the ‘dress challenge’. I own dresses and skirts already, I just wanted some new pink things for spring. I wanted to update the wardrobe. Its been while since I bought any new clothes.

I think these days we have all become so casual that dressing the way people did in the past seems like too much. It seems special and well… it IS special. Are you not worth that specialness? Dressing like a grown up is a gift you give to yourself. No hoodies, no sweats, no leggins or yoga pants. A skirt. A nice blouse. Perhaps a dress. Some accessories. Hair curled, combed, whatever, and make up on with earrings and any other jewelry you wish to add. Your home and family are your community. You have/had standards at work. You dressed for those people you worked with, why not for your family? Why not put the same effort in for yourself?

Anyone else want to join me for the adventure? A dress a day in 2021?



January is National Hot Tea Month

Emilie Barns’ book: If Teacups Could Talk; Sharing a Cup of Kindness with Treasured Friends. Behind Emilie’s book is one I also love that she did not write. It is filled with recipes and crafts for Christmas.

To celebrate, national Hot Tea Month, I am featuring this book by Tea Exemplar, Emilie Barns who sadly passed away in 2016 at the age of 78.

In this book, Mrs. Barnes includes, recipes, teatime stories and inspiration. I highly recommend it for your tea loving friend or traditional housewife.

I had the great opportunity to work in two tea establishments almost 20 years ago. One was a tea room and the other a tea shop. Both were in the historic district in my city. They filled that spot inside of a woman that needs to create and make things pretty, and tasty. In the tea shop we carried many of, Mrs. Barnes’ books on teatime. I purchased a few and have treasured them ever since.

During that time, I learned all I could about tea and eventually wrote about it for an emagazine site. I love tea. Everything about it makes me happy. Truly, the 1980’s and 1990’s were a great time of revival for this lost art. People are so coffee obsessed these days, running around buzzed up from caffeine that tea is often over looked. Tea is so gentle, so genteel. It is refined in ways coffee will never be. Perhaps that is why it still has not caught on in America as much as coffee despite the best efforts of many tea lovers.

Emilie Barnes did not only write about tea. A devout Christian wife, and mother; she also wrote devotional books, books on home making, organization & decluttering, and decorating one’s home.

There is a current trend right now that I hope grows and grows… it its that of women going back to the roles of the traditional wife. Emilie Barnes was traditional when traditional was not ‘cool’. She was traditional when women were beginning to be pressured to go into the workplace. She was writing about home management when women were getting into corporate management. When women were being convinced they needed to be competitive with other women, she was writing about making friends over a cup of tea and some scones.

Emilie Barnes wanted to change things for the better. She wrote over 30 books on topics she wanted to read and that she thought other women needed to know about as homemaking became out of fashion to the world.

Today, right now, I am baking two loaves of banana nut bread with chocolate chips inside. I will make lunch while the loaves cook, and later, at about 4 p.m. (traditional teatime) I will be toasting Mrs. Barnes with a cuppa and a slice of banana bread.

Happy National Hot Tea Month. If you have a favorite teatime story, I would love to hear it.


Laundry and trash day

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Monday’s are trash day. They are also the day I clean our clothes.

I think Mondays are laundry days for many homes. This is not a sponsored post but I thought I would share some of my laundry tips and what I use just in case it might benefit someone.

I use Seventh Generation laundry detergent.

Seventh Generation Laundry Detergent Natural Free & Clear Ultra ...

I received some samples from a friend of my sister, and I have been hooked ever since. For most loads I also add this:

Lysol Disinfectant Spray, Crisp Linen, 12.5oz - Walmart.com ...My mom bought some for me when the Covid lockdown began.

I also use this:

Amazon.com : Lenor Spring Awakening Softener, 650 ml, 26 WASHES ... which I buy from the German deli/bakery down the street. Certain fabric softeners make my allergies act up and can burn my and my husband’s skin. We have not had any issues using any of these products.

My laundry turns out clean and smelling great without being too perfume scented. Also, I do not use a great deal of the fabric softener. Just a bit is all it takes to make our clothes smell great.

I went through that trend of making my own laundry detergent. I can do it again in a pinch if I must but for now, I will enjoy the products I use as they work well for us.