Traditional Housewives

Are you a traditional, or ‘trad-wife’. I am. I never thought I would be. I fell for the lies of feminism; hook, line and sinker. I was miserable but I never knew why until I married in 2004 at the age of 37.

British Trad-wife in above video explains: Five reasons I LOVE being a Trad Wife • Encouraging books on Femininity

I always felt out of place in the world. As a child, I had always been taught, at home and at school, to want to be part of the workforce- to make my mark on the world. Really, corporate America is just 8th grade with a paycheck. You still have bullies, mean girls, the same girls who were loose in school are still that way only they use their sexuality to get ahead. There is rivalry between women that is shocking in its pettiness and cruelty. I did not do well in school because I was not a game player, and I did not do well in corporate America because I still was unable to play those kinds of games.

When I married my husband, I thought we would travel more. He is older than I was, and settled financially. He had grown children but we did not have children together. A world of possibility was open for us. Then, two years into our marriage he was diagnosed as a type 2 diabetic. Nine years into our marriage he went into a diabetic coma. His blood glucose was over 1000. He was in a coma for three days; in the hospital for a week.

During that time he was also in the middle of what would turn out to be a three year stretch of unemployment. We sold many of our possessions to make ends meet. It was difficult. Those were dark days. His family, and mine, was pressuring me to get a job outside the home. I could not see the logic of working AND hiring someone to look after my husband when I could stay home and look after him myself. He could not be left alone and if I had gone to work I would have been distracted and worried about coming home to finding a corpse (there was no way we could have hired someone to look after him, we had no insurance & no money). We made it through the big stuff but we are still dealing with some of the aftermath. I’m still a stay-at-home wife… a trad-wife.

We must get past this mentality that traditional wives are leeches. That what a homemaker does has no value. Women are still expected to do everything around the house AND bring home a paycheck AND look after the kids AND be a sex bot for hubby.

This stupid commercial is one of the ways women were being brainwashed 30 years ago.

Few men would object to having a woman do EVERYTHING while they only go to work and sit back while their wife runs herself into an early grave trying to live up to all of the expectations foisted upon her. I decided years ago, before my husband’s health took a bad turn to draw a line in the sand. That line was working outside the home. I could not see working to make someone else rich while neglecting my home. It’s MY home. I will run it my way.

It has taken years to work myself out of the programming that tells women they don’t contribute unless they contribute outside the home. The more people who are working, the more people who are paying paying taxes. If I have to live on a budget so should my government. My being a traditional wife is my little bit of civil disobedience. My sanity, My comfort. My refuge. My sanctuary against a hostile world. I hope it is so for my husband as well.

If you are a woman who wants to be a trad-wife, or a man who wants to marry a woman who wants to be a trad-wife, there are resources out there on the subject and I will be adding more as time goes on. There is more to life than being, Boss Lady.

10 Comments

  1. Christ is Risen! Amazing and very brave post! Thank you! I could not agree more than 100%. If you do not mind me asking, how is your husband doing now?

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    1. MelissaBishop says:

      Thank you for asking. While he is doing much better, he still has some health issues to walk through. Prayers are always welcome. I received some oil from the Hawaiian myrrh streaming icon we use along with Holy Water. He is still a catecumen but the blessings received from the water and oil and from prayer and reading are already working to the glory of God!

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      1. Glory to God for all things! These are very good news!

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  2. Dear Housewife and fellow blogger Melissa! I can’t agree more and I’m in for this 100%. The whole feminist movement was and is a movement, to me not much better than a bowel movement! The whole thing was another stupid leftist radical idea pushed by some of the worst examples of women or human beings for that matter! I was since my elementary school days saying like my grandmothers and grandfathers if something isn’t broke don’t be trying to fix it. Traditional nuclear family arrangement was and still is a tried and proven way for women and men to share their lives and responsibilities as a couple and then family in the most natural and ideal fashion on earth! NOTHING, I say NOTHING is out there that makes for some panacea or utopia set-up that will accomplish the most good for the individuals and family as a whole than what’s been in place since the dawn of civilization. Sorry if I rub anyone the wrong way, but I’ve been around the track as they say and I’m nobody’s fool now because of it and got these hard earned sergeant stripes on my arm sleeve getting them through hard knocks and spiritual insight from God; and anyone that wants to give me a hard time about my outlook or values; to them I say, just try, I’m hard as nails positive I’m in the right. And I say this to all the rest out there with that PC and diversity gibberish like the nut-job Hillary and the cabal always talking their BS agenda out in the messed up world at large these days! It’s really a shame because things were very good many decades ago until the loonies and ACLU and so on, got our legislators and courts to bend over and say whatever! Now we have a society that is very sick and beyond life support to intervene and get things back to NORMAL, unless of course a miracle occurs which I do pray to God through Jesus Christ will come, Amen. Thank you for being candid and genuine from your good heart as a good woman, I love that about ladies like you and I do totally appreciate it and you! God bless you and your beloved husband! Amen.

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  3. I love this post ! I remember that Enjoli commercial vividly !
    I also bought into the feminist view about women.
    I earned a Doctorate in Sociology, and worked for many years in Affirmatve Action and Equality issues.
    I was also a wife and mother, and so, so busy !
    It was when we retired to Newfoundland , due to my husband’s health issues, that I became a traditional housewife.
    It has been my favourite ‘job’ so far.
    Thanks for posting ! 🤗

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    1. MelissaBishop says:

      Love this. thank you for sharing your story!

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    2. MelissaBishop says:

      How has living where you do now improved his health, if you don’t mind me asking?

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      1. Hi Melissa !
        I am happy to share.
        At age 60, my husband found out that he had been born with a defect in his heart. It only showed up then.
        He felt that it would benefit him to give by the sea, in a very calm environment.
        He was right !
        In this quiet place, listening to the waves and the sea birds, my husband became increasingly stronger.
        Thus in 2017, we travelled to Canada’s famous Heart Institute in Ottawa, where a brilliant surgeon repaired my husband’s heart, and today he is doing well, praise God.
        There is virtually no air pollution here, and it is such a simple life, with simple pleasures. 🤗

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      2. MelissaBishop says:

        Love this! My city has grown to about 500k people and is still growing. I long for a quieter life and try to create that in my home. I am so glad your husband is doing better!

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      3. Thanks, Melissa. Yes, we can create quiet environments in our homes, and make them holy places of peace and healing. 🤗

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